Everyday Leadership

Are you wondering if you are a leader? Are you concerned that people in the congregation you serve don’t see themselves as a leader? What happens when leaders are “them” and not “us”? These are not only great questions, but fundamental to understanding how to empower others and inviting them into making a difference in the world.

Recently I stumble across this great TedTalk on Everyday Leadership. It’s funny, but it’s also challenging all of us to rethinking leadership. Check it out.

What Young People are Teaching Me

This afternoon was Senior recognition night for my daughter’s high school tennis team. It’s been a hard, short season for my daughter which started with leg surgery and is ending with her playing great tennis. Let’s just say it’s been a full 6-weeks. With only two matches left of the season, the end of the tennis season is in sight, as are her days playing high school tennis. Today was the first of many “endings” that will be celebrated this year.

Yesterday was our first small group meeting at our church. Having “timed out” with my own daughters, I now have returned to leading in the middle school ministry. Sixth grade boys, nine of them. My husband and I are co-leading the group. (The last time we co-lead was when our college senior was in preschool. Wow!) Last night was an evening of beginnings, or at least marked the beginning of a new year. Even though the boys go to different school, the boys know each other from sports or other activities. And me, I know several of these boys because some years back I sat in this same room with their parents when they were in 6th grade. YIKES I’m old (or at least I felt old last night).

Beginnings and endings. The lives of our young people are filled with them. Some beginnings are major ones – new school, change of friends, moving – other ones are less dramatic – ending a sports season, changing classes each trimester, riding the wave of friends. The same can be said of endings. Having beginnings and endings as a regular part of one’s life is hard in many way, yet it also provides openings for new starts, reforming habits, and igniting new relationships.  

As I look at the lives of adults, their lives are much more stable. Sure, much of that is good, but some of it makes adults both boring and stagnate. How often are adults meeting new people and making new friends? When was the last chance you had for a “do over” or to develop a new pattern? Sure, the things adults worry about are “more serious” then young people, and maybe their decisions are of greater consequence, but really…could we learn a thing or two from young people?

Tonight, let me suggest five lessons we can learn from young people:

1. Moments of recognition are important. Tonight the coaches spoke into the lives of each Sr. Some of the things they said were obvious (like their athletic ability), but other things were more subtle (thinks like your sensitivity for others or your communication skills are really good). Everything said were important, not only for the individual, but also for the whole community. We could use more moment of honoring each other.

2. Dreams are important, and come in all shapes and sizes. Sixth graders and Sr have dreams. Be it being asked to prom, getting a goal in hockey, learning math, or attending a particular college, young people have dreams. Adults don’t always ask about them or take them seriously, but they have them. What does it mean to be people who cultivate dreams? What does it mean for adults to dare dream?

3. Life has ups and downs, count on it. Spend much time around anyone 13-18 and life’s a roller coaster. One day they can be flying high and the next they might hit bottom. These highs and lows are expected (not always appreciated, but expected). Some of the main work of adolescents is to learn skills to navigate these moments in life. But what if adults began expecting life to be filled with highs and lows, and actually got on the roller coast and enjoyed the ride? Sure, it’s hard some days, but maybe it might also bring us more joy as well.

4. Life is better together. That’s not surprising, but many of us adults are so focused on what we have “to do” each day/week we miss the people in our lives. How often do you get the chance to spend time with your peers, your colleagues as people? So many activities middle schoolers and high schoolers are involved in foster community – team-building, bonding, shared life together. Might adults learn something here?

5. The future is important, but the present is what counts. Sometimes parents (myself included) get frustrated with young people because they get so caught up in the moment they can’t think about the future. Now don’t get me wrong, we do need to keep the future on the horizon, but adults can be so focused on the future they miss the present. And living in the present is a valuable gift.

Leadership Lessons

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Sunday I participated in my first race of the year, a duathlon in downtown Minneapolis. It was a hot, humid August morning. As racers made their way to the starting line, the race organizers warned us that they’d be keeping an eye on the weather and if the heat index got too high, they’d call the race for safety reasons.

Now I was not in my best racing condition and hadn’t trained in this extreme heat. So, I had mixed emotions regarding this announcements. But as my waved headed to the starting line, I promised myself I’d listen to my body…and committed to holding safety above a competitive time. And then I was off on the first leg of the race.

Just about two hours later I crossed the finish line exhausted and dehydrated. As I found a place to sit down and rest I learned 10 minutes before they’d made the decision to stop people before the final leg. I’d finished, but over half of the participants would not have the same opportunity.

What followed was a series of comments – some in favor, some in opposition. As I returned to the transition area to get my gear, I passed one of the event staff. I paused and once he got off the walkie-talkie, I thanked him for his work. Then I made my way to breakfast and air conditioning.

It wasn’t until later in the day when I made the connection between the race and ministry. Linsky and Heifetz remind us that leaders are always putting themselves on the line. Many of us know what they are talking about – leading is dangerous, and not going to win any popularity contests. But here are three things I’m taking away from my experience on Sunday, things I will use as I enter into a new season of ministry this fall.

Leaders are called to keep their eye on the big picture. As a participant, I had a job to do – run my race. But as I was focused on my role, there were all kinds of other things going on that I couldn’t (and shouldn’t) pay attention to. It was the job of others – the medic staff, the volunteers, the police officers – to pay attention to traffic and weather and making sure there was enough water. And their paying attention to those things enabled me to do my thing. In ministry, there are people who’s role it is to teach Sunday School, for example. Their role is to love and teach kids. But other people have other roles – like cleaning the building and planning worship. And some ministry leaders are called to step back and see the big picture, just like the race staff. These leaders have to watch and listen, they have to make decisions, often weaving together information from various other folks, so they can lead the whole.

Leaders have to care about the good of all, not the good of a few. Many of the participants stated that the decision to finish or not should have been left to the individuals themselves. And yes, many of the participants could have made the right choice for themselves. But speaking for myself, I didn’t realize until later in the day how dehydrated I had gotten. I was taking in fluids all during the race and I was paying attention to my body. But too many elements were different than my previous training runs and I was not in the best position to make the call, for me or for others. Leaders understand that, they understand their role is to care for the widest audience. At times, caring for the whole means watching out for the vulnerable, those on the edge, those who may not have the opportunity to speak up for themselves. This was the right thing for the whole.

Leaders decide and move on. Once the decision to cancel the last leg of the race was made, everyone stood behind that decision and worked to carry it out. And there was no apologizing. Yes, there was explaining and communicating, but there was no hedging. They had warned us, they had watched the weather, and it had gotten to a turning point. And the leadership made a decision and stood by it. Thanks! I appreciate that. And standing by one’s decision does not mean being without compassion about the individuals impacted. No, quite the opposite. The decision was made in order to care about the individuals…and that was part of the message communicated in various ways. If we, as leaders, know what our calling is, and have a framework for leading, then we have what we need to make the hard decisions when the time comes.

So, as we move into September, and another fall season of ministry, I challenge you to lead. Know leading isn’t going to make you popular and, in fact, it might be dangerous. But also know that leading is important…and without it, ministry won’t have the environment it needs to thrive.

One view of Church

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I’ve been in downtown Pittsburgh for 4 days. What a beautiful city in the summer with the rivers, parks, and outdoor restaurants. But the scenery and food are not what is most memorable about this trip.

I’m in Pittsburgh because I’m a member of the Evangelical Church in America (ELCA) and I’m representing Luther Seminary, the school where I teach, at the national gathering of ELCA Lutherans. My role is easy, I’m an advisor, a resource person. I’m not sure what I’m suppose to do, but here’s what I’ve done. I’ve Listened to pastors and lay leaders from across the ELCA talk about their faith, their love for the people in the communities in which they worship, and their passion for the church (collectively and locally) to make a difference in their lives, in their local communities, and in the world. They are filled with excitement, open to new ideas, and willing to change. And I have also had the opportunity to share what one little piece of the church, a school with a mission for educating leaders for Christian communities, is doing to contribute to the greater mission. I’ve had dinner with alumni, connected with colleagues, and begun dreaming with people about our future as a church.

Always being Made New‘ is the theme, and as this church celebrates its 25th birthday, it is putting those words into practice. Yesterday, for example, the voting assembly elected its first female presiding bishop (or top leader of the church). I was on the phone with my daughter as the results were coming in and I had to pause and soak in the moment. I have lived through the birthing of this expression of the Lutheran church and in my lifetime we have gone from not letting women be pastors to now having the top leader be a woman. Wow!

But as historic a moment as that was, it has not been the highlight. The highlight for me has been the under 35 crowd – the youth and young adults who have shown up, stepped up, and spoken up. (And tweeted, and blogged, and shared links, and…you get the picture.) Do they care about church governance? Some do, others don’t. But dealing with governance issues is only a small part of this gathering. What they do care about is the gospel, about putting faith into action, about global issues and local realities, about how we as a church handle our resources, and how much we are willing to change our patterns as we attend to these things. They are not naive, they know structures are needed to tend to such things, so they come to the table and ask really good, and often new, questions. They push and they listen. They ask for your opinion and offer their own. They can live in ambiguity and tension, but want to keep moving toward something important. I have found their presence refreshing AND helpful.

So as I pack up my things tomorrow night, and return to Minnesota, I do so refreshed and thankful. Thanks to the people who have nurtured these younger adults and listened to them. Thanks to the regional bodies who have entrusted them with real responsibility here, and hopefully at home. Thanks to the assembly for making room and listening to new, and often different, voices. And thanks be to God who reminds us, again and again, it’s the Spirit who makes all things new.

12 Cultural Trends

Leaders of organizations are often keeping their eyes tuned in to the best leadership books or business world trends. I’m a big fan of both of those sources as key for leading in today’s world. But don’t stop there. Many of the changes taking place today aren’t addressed directly by the ‘typical’ conversation partners. And there are small, but significant changes taking place which are changing the fabric of society. And while we don’t yet know the impact of these changes, we do need to be attentive to them.

Carey Neiuworf has listed 12 cultural trends taking place and invited church leaders to wonder how these trends impact ministry.

Check out his list. What are your thoughts? Have you seen the impact of these trends in your ministry? What do these trends mean about shifts in life patterns? What, if anything, would you add?

Carey Neiuwhof

Thanks

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Thanks to all of you who offered comments on your view of church.

I offered them to the class and they added great texture to our already interesting discussion. A few comments on where our weeklong discussion left us.

1. History matters – and not just the past decade. Putting our view of church in the context of church across time is fruitful, and necessary. Each era has had their own struggles and opportunities for discerning what it means to be church.

2. Church is both event and community – not either/or. God does break into our lives, into humanity, and change our human gatherings into divine spaces. For Lutherans, this in breaking comes in the form of Word and sacrament. But church is also a dynamic community of GOD’s called and sent people living in and for the world. Being a Christian public leader means attending to both of these dimensions of church.

3. Institutional structures flow out of the church’s nature and ministry – not the other way around. Hence, this means structures need to be revisited and reimagined. Said differently, the way church organizing itself needs to change over time. Our’s is one such time.

4. Being church is simple, and complex – and that is both a joy and a challenge. At it’s core, church is simple. It’s GOD’s people on earth being the body of Christ post-resurrection. Our work is to discover a Christian way of life and participate in GOD’s creative and redemptive mission in the world. And that is universal across time and place, as it is also particular to each time and place. The language, practices, and rituals of the church serve that call.

So, there you have it – some thoughts which bubbled up from a group of 12 leaders willing to ask hard questions and open themselves to GOD’s call to serve.

Terri

Spent the day talking about church

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Spent the day talking about church. The setting – 2nd day of a 5 day intensive course. Twelve masters students in the class, all serving as Christian public leaders in some capacity.

The day started with a seemingly easy assignment…in a few sentences write your definition of church. Answers included – being the body of Christ or living community. The church’s call to the world was acknowledged, as was the church’s role in shaping both our identity and our actions. Students named the core work of our Lutheran tradition as proclaiming GOD’s Word and administering the sacraments. And at one level, our task for done. The group had done great work. And it was only 30 minutes into an 8 hour day on this subject and they’d offered good stuff.

But, since they’d paid for the class and I had planned various activities and lectures, we decided to continue. Next on the order for the day was ‘opening our imagination.’ We listened to two songs which portrayed very different views of church. Great discussion followed, both naming realities and inviting reflection. Then we moved to our own experiences of church. More diversity surfaced and conversation deepened. Then we wondered what Scripture had to say, what our denomination had to offer, and ended the morning wondering what views of church culture offers. Now, 3 hours later, the earlier definition we offered somehow seemed too simple for the complex world in which we find ourselves.

If you were asked to participate in this exploration, what would you say?

If we scan history we get a really big view of church. And in doing so our view of church gets both bigger and smaller. Here’s what I mean. Some of our current ‘givens’ might not be so necessary. (For example, we had a great conversation about what people thought of the organ in worship when it was first introduced! Or wonder what people thought about using bar tunes as hymns!) And some of our ‘auxiliaries’ might be more essential. (Things like caring for one another and seeing that the needs of our community, internal and external, are attended to.) We might also wonder about things like location and leadership, things like passing on practices across time and learning the Christian story, about how (and when) we connect faith communities and the place our theological commitments have, and we might wonder what it means to faithfully witness to GOD’s love in our time and place. These wonderings have not been easily answered in other eras. Truth is, they probably won’t be in our either. But history does offer some perspective, if we step back far enough.

What do I know? I know my view of church has gotten simpler, and more open to possibilities. I know God loves the world and all humanity. And GOD’s mission of loving the world includes inviting the church, GOD’s people gathered and scattered, into that work. I know that calling includes communities of people located in particular places, a geography if you will. But I also know it includes people or groups sent out, mobile units or people with particular foci or ministries. I know being the church includes some practices, and I’ve come to believe that being church includes a lot of improv. And much of the rest is a mystery. And I’m OK with that.

What about you, what do you know?

We pick this topic up again on Thursday. We left class with our definitions intentionally messy and unresolved. Live with us in the tension. Offer your ideas (I’ll offer them to the class), and I’ll post again on Thursday and let you know how it goes.

Terri

What does it mean to be Church today?

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Today I sit at a bagel shop grading papers – papers by seminary students regarding ministry and leadership. All semester we have been wrestling with what it means to be “a church for the world.” We’ve looked at research, studied texts from various faith traditions, worshipped together in various forms, discussed our own experiences and presented our own ideas, engaged various theories, and reflected on ourselves as Christian public leaders. At the beginning of the semester we wrote simple definitions of church; at the end of the semester we have as many questions as answers. What does it means to be church in the 21st century?

As I read papers, there’s a buzz around me.
– There’s “the regulars” stopping in for their cup of coffee and breakfast bagel. They joke with the employees and head off to work or settle in to read the paper.
– There’s “the functional” crowd who stop by to grab a bite as they run errands or go about their daily routine. They don’t chat much or leave much of an impact as they come through.
– There are people, like me, “hanging out” working or studying. They grab a coffee or soda and quietly sit in a corner, immersed in their own world.
– Then there’s “the socials.” They’ve come to meet up. Some are friends, you can tell, and they quickly pick-up where their last conversation ended. Some are family, like the grandma having a morning treat with her grandkids, simply enjoying each other’s company. Some are college students, beginning their summer break by reconnecting after months or weeks apart. They stroll in closer to lunch and are sporting their favorite college sweatshirt.
– And today, due to the rain, some are “the outdoor workers.” Two or three groups made their way through, grabbing a snack as they wait out the weather. They chat as they hope for the weather to change, wondering how this will impact their work. One of these groups sat behind me and reminded me why we have to wrestle with being church today.

Here’s the scene. Three damp painters, all “younger” men, grab a bagel and a booth. A few minutes later, a young woman (not a painter) comes and joins them. I soon realize she’s married to one of the painters, the one who is probably the foreman or boss. Since there’s no rush, as it’s still raining, they just chat – sharing a bit about their life stories. One of the men shares how he’s moved around a lot, has family all around, and isn’t much into long-term relationships. Then he shares about his family. His father, who died when he was 10, was from a family of partiers. His mother’s family were church goers. They ask more questions and he acknowledges he didn’t go to church much, and in fact was not even baptized. Then, seeming out of nowhere, the couple talk about their day trip canoeing on Saturday. It’s with people from their church, and without missing a beat, they invite him along. And he says yes.

OK, so go figure – faith and life conversations happening right here in the bagel shop! Then three more crew members join them, as well as another young girl. And interesting enough, they continue this conversation. And, as the rain stops, one by one the painters leave. The two women remain, with the married woman seemingly “counseling” the other. Prayers, reading scripture and discerning how to live a life of faith the core of their conversation; it’s not in a cheesy way, but as an authentic expression of care and concern.

What does it mean to be church today? Perhaps it means hanging out in bagel shops. Getting to know the people who pass through and supporting those who stop and engage. Perhaps it’s reimaging our call from the outside in. Ministry is happening in the world. Intergenerational conversations, young adult community, friendly-faces offering encouragement for the day, space for connecting with old friends, and a place in the community to work. And maybe, just maybe, we too could be – should be – moving our conversation about faith and life into such public environments.